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I found the following posts on the LDS Tech section of the church's website. While much of the information on the forum discussions is geared towards technically savvy people or those concerned with protecting their children, much of the information is useful.

As a wife who has been technologically uninformed for much of my adult life, which allowed my husband easy and instant access to the garbage, I am doing all I can to learn more about technology. Hope these forum discussions and posts prove somewhat helpful.

I have installed Net Nanny, am the admin user and have the password. It was very easy to install and maintain. I was a bit disturbed to read about some of the ways around software installed filters and am doing more to learn about that. A filter has not become my only source of defense, but it has finally required some accountability for computer usage that was not implemented in my household before. I also take comfort in knowing my children or babysitters will not accidentally come upon inappropriate material in my household. Rest assured we have had frank discussions with our children regarding proper choices and what to do if faced with it in another setting. I also learned how to block channels and certain ratings and content on my satellite dish. I simply called the company and they walked me through it. I am the code holder for that as well.

I heard once the thought that the wife should not be the 'porn police'. It should be the husband's responsibility to manage his temptations appropriately. However, pornography is NOT a temptation for me. I can hold the 'keys' to accessing the garbage without ever being tempted to look at it. On one of these forums, there was a post that said not installing filters, security codes etc. is akin to stocking our shelves with R and XXX movies and only telling our children / husband not to watch them. Even with the coping mechanisms my husband has learned to deal with temptation, WHY would I allow easy access to this garbage in my own home if I had the ability to severely limit it? WHY would I give Satan that open door into my home? I understand that my husband holds the ultimate responsibility for his recovery, for maintaining his decision to turn from the smut. But if he were a recovering alcoholic, I certainly wouldn't stock my fridge full of beer.

Ultimately, I've learned there is not one 'magic' instant answer to combating this wickedness in our families. It is a many pronged attack which requires a many faceted defense.

https://tech.lds.org/wiki/index.php/Internet_(Family_Safety)

http://tech.lds.org/forum/showthread.php?t=323

http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/

http://providentliving.org/content/display/0,11666,5302-1-2769-1,00.html

http://providentliving.org/content/display/0,11666,6278-1-3240-1,00.html

(I love the graphic on this link - my husband often describes his journey with sexual addiction as feeling chained, but that the weight was placed on him gradually. At times, when he thought it was 'under control' he realizes now that the chains were still there just loosened, and Satan convinced him they were gone. Satan lied continuously telling him that he didn't need to tell anyone - including me - and that he could handle it himself. My husband says that once he finally went to the ones with the 'keys' - proper Priesthood keys - the locks were removed through proper repentance and the chains have slowly, finally fallen away.)

In faith...moving forward...